Thought divides knowing into a knower and the known, loving into a lover and the beloved, and perceiving into a perceiver and the perceived. As such, it is thought alone that abstracts a subject and an object from the seamless, unnamable intimacy of pure Knowing or Experiencing.

Is Consciousness Elusive?

It makes such perfect sense and is so obvious. How can it be so elusive at the same time?

Rupert, Thank you so much for your recent posts.  It is a delight to read such a clear and practical explanation of something that is in effect impossible to put into words. Maurice Nicoll said in ‘Living Time’ that “Nearly everything of importance is impossible to express.” Curiously, the more I delve into nonduality, the more words fail me.  It is impossible to discuss these matters, and I find myself going completely silent, unable to explain anything to my friends and family! Yet it makes such perfect sense and is so obvious.  How can it be so elusive at the same time?

Thanks again!



Dear Lucia,

L. “How can it be so elusive at the same time?”

R. The only reason ‘it’ seems to be elusive is that we conceive ‘it’ to be an object, that is, to have some objective qualities that can be sought, found, held onto or lost. Once it has become clear that ‘it’ does not and can not have any objective qualities, a deep relaxation takes place in the mind and subsequently in the body. This relaxation is the threshold of a new and unknown direction towards which we find ourselves facing, and from where the ever-presence of Consciousness makes itself known to itself. (Please understand that the implied objectivity in the idea of a direction is metaphorical only).

As for communicating with friends and family I would say this: there are many ways that this understanding is communicated and words are just one of them. If there is a difficulty on your part or a resistance on their part, I would leave such conversations until the channels on both sides are free from awkwardness and reactivity, and the conversation can be conducted in an atmosphere of openness and trust.

Our deep understanding is communicated, often silently (and often more effectively), in everything we do – making a cup of tea, buying the groceries, whatever. As we take our stand knowingly as this Knowing Presence and not as a person, a separate entity, our thoughts, feeling and activities will naturally, effortlessly and, in most cases, gradually realign themselves with this understanding and will in turn, express it, without any forced effort ‘on our part’ to do so.

With love,